Sh-t happens
We cannot control that.
All we can control
is how we react
We cannot control people or events. All we can control is how we react to people and events. When in the throes of conflict, this is easier said than done. How can we most efficiently and effectively control our reactivity (i.e.., emotional reactivity)?
Step One: By accepting the situation—understanding that the situation is for the best on some level, whether visible or not—rather than wishing for a different outcome and thereby simply resigning yourself to how things are. Acceptance requires presence of mind—being mentally focused on the present moment. When present, we can see truth. When present we are not wishing for a future outcome … and thereby we are able to fully embrace the reality of the present moment. When present we do not subjectively judge—rather we merely objectively observe. Acceptance is acknowledging the facts and understanding that we are given precisely what we need—for our evolution—in each moment. In other words, acceptance is based in faith—absolute faith that we are given exactly what we need in each moment. We connect to absolute faith when connected to the soul (rather than ego).
In contrast, resignation is based in ego. Ego looks forward to the (so-called) future and back at the (so-called) past. Acceptance is objective. It is a function of present moment focus (soul alignment). It views the facts of the situation as they are, and doesn’t resist the situation as it is, as it is not subjectively comparing the current outcome to a preferred outcome. On the other hand, resignation is both subjective and judgmental. It judges situations as either favorable or unfavorable. Acceptance doesn’t judge—it simply acknowledges things as they are.
Andrew
